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The perks of dating Mr Bigs, and how to find yours.

Updated: May 24

Have you ever watched Sex and the City?

Well, let me tell you how I met my very own Mr.Big.

Carrie and Mr. Big in Sex and the city

Chapter 1 - The meet-cute

In the heart of Toronto back in 2021, a few weeks after moving to a new place after living with my ex-boyfriend for a year and a half, I found myself at a neighbour's birthday party where fate seemed intent on playing its hand.

When Mr. Big 2.0 walked in, it was like someone had read my mind and delivered exactly my type right to the doorstep.

He was all athletic charm in his Gymshark attire—a choice I tease him about to this day—and topped off with a Paris Saint-Germain cap, which I boldly claimed that night, insisting it should only be worn by the French. The cap became a playful token between us, worn with a smirk as we mingled through the evening.

As he said goodbye, I returned his cap with a kiss and when he left, I found myself chasing after him for one last kiss at the door—a promise of more to come.

Within days, we met again, diving into a connection that was as passionate as it was profound. He often stayed in a hotel for work over the weekends, and for the next year or so I would join him, stepping into a temporary world we created just for ourselves.

Chapter 2 - Our Dynamic

Those nights were about more than just passion; they were about indulgence, comfort, and a kind of attentiveness that always left me at the centre of his universe. We'd lose ourselves until the early hours, then share meals in bed, the outside world held at bay while we decided what to watch, laugh about, or dream together.

Each encounter with him was a reminder of how intoxicatingly simple and yet profoundly deep a connection could be, nursed not just from moments of passion but from the countless, effortless ways we existed together in the spaces between. He had this way of making everything about me—what we watched, what we ate, and the unwavering attention he paid to my desires.

This experience taught me the power of allowing someone to care for me—not out of necessity but as an expression of fondness. It revealed the strength in vulnerability and the beauty of yielding control, even if just momentarily.

With Mr. Big 2.0, I learned that being taken care of doesn't mean losing your independence; it's about trusting someone enough to let them add to your happiness, complementing your life with their presence and support.

In a world where we're often taught to value independence above all else, opening up to the care of someone who respects and understands you can be a profound source of joy. It's about finding balance, accepting love in its many forms, and embracing the moments of quiet intimacy that can make life truly sweet.

How to find your very own Mr. Big 2.0:

Know Yourself First:

Before you can find someone who complements you, it's crucial to understand who you are and what you want in a relationship.

Take the time to reflect on your values, goals, and the qualities you admire in a partner.

Set Clear Boundaries:

A Mr. Big 2.0 respects boundaries and understands the importance of mutual respect.

Communicate your limits and expectations from the beginning to ensure you're both on the same page.

Be Open to Vulnerability:

Allow yourself to be open and honest about your feelings.

Vulnerability fosters a deeper connection and enables your partner to understand and care for you genuinely.

Look for Mutual Respect:

A true Mr. Big 2.0 will always respect you and your independence.

Look for someone who values your opinions, supports your dreams, and treats you as an equal partner.

Enjoy the Journey:

Finding the right person takes time.

Enjoy the process of meeting new people, learning from each relationship, and growing as an individual.

Your Mr. Big 2.0 will come when the time is right.

Embrace the journey, learn from each experience, and remember that the right person will appreciate and cherish you for who you truly are.

Much Love,

Lea - Club 30 x


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